Relating Life:Regular people with a relational response

What you’re searching for is not what you’re looking for. Yet, whatever search words you used, they brought you here to us.

We believe relating is the key to everything. We’re here to excite your relational imagination. We’re here to engage you in relating. How and why? We bring together books, movies, lectures, music, film festivals, spirituality, therapists, physicians, scientists, philosophers, with an eye to finding the relational similarities that are healing. Once you begin to look for them, believe me you'll find them.

Everything in life relates. Nothing in the universe exists by itself. We only know one thing by comparison with another. But all relating is not healing. We hope you’ll join us in living a relational aware and choosing life.

We're just like you. Ordinary folks. We looked for answers because we hurt. We found relational answers because the other answers didn't work for us. And were pretty sure that if you're reading these words, those answers didn't work completely for you either. Through our experiences, good and bad, we’ve been led to relational answers to heal relational illness. We invite you to join us in both the pursuit of relational answers and the healing that comes with finding them.

Why don't we find the answers to our questions? We live at a time where almost instantaneously any question can be considered with perhaps millions of possible answers and a handful are then delivered. There’s an old proverb… that to get a good answer you must ask a good question. But without the right words our experiences and our questions are limited to the words we already know. Our searching reveals what we already know. Searching does not automatically broaden out. Most searches go from the most popular searches and popular words to increasingly less popular searches and less used words and phrases. Searching doesn't automatically reveal that you want a broader answer to your question. Searching only provides you with the answers to the one or two or five words that you already know.

You must of had the experience, we all have, of feeling not heard or misunderstood. Unfortunately the wisdom in the healers that might have been available to us in early times have become automated. The wisdom that we now seek comes from algorithms and programmers. It comes from comparing links for what is the most popular, what is the most looked at. Not bad but not enough. Many kinds of suffering require more personal touch.

Of course, a human sitting with you might look into your eyes and see that your question had not been answered or your question was deeper. Are we not in the same automated dilemma, after all your reading our words? But empathy can anticipate. Those who have suffered can anticipate your longings and offer direction. We intend to help you have healing experiences from many sources. There are always those who have some greater wisdom. The hardest to find are those who have suffered and have had to find the greater wisdom and then translated that it into something that worked for them and others. Often they are so thrilled about their healing that they have the need to tell others.  And in the telling, speak the healing answers. But how does one find those others? How does the searcher find the healed healers?

Our mission is to help ourselves, and you, to find the right words that better describe the reasons for our suffering, to find a more complete revelation to our suffering, to find a way out of our suffering. Not that words are the answer. But words used in relationship are transformative. Words allow us to make use of our personal longings to bring about the life we are meant to live. Of course we will use words, but we will use words to point you to experiences you can have with others. We will speak to you, and with you, through the books, movies, blog posts, etc we distill and share here. We invite you to join us in both the pursuit of relational answers and the healing life that comes with finding them.

Relationally yours,

Charlie, Corinne, Nathan, Luke, Lucy, and JohnBebe.

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