What's Wrong With My Relationship?

Relating

What do I want from my relationship? My husband doesn't understand why I work so much. My girlfriend is gone all the time. She doesn't understand what I want.

We don't Relate. We argue about the things that we want or don't want. Arguments are circular and hard to resolve. 

Relating is done over time and expresses who we are. It explains the why of what we do. It strips down the superficial and reveals needs and desires important to the heart. Relating is a way out of argument. 

Arguments design is for one person to win and one person to lose. Relating is based on give and take. Relating is not a take over.